Flashbacks and Weightlifting Part 1

There are many things than cause a person's self esteem to plummet. All of them are rooted in fear. A flashback could be described as;

An adrenalized thought rush that causes a traumatic past event to become vivid and real to the point that the person suffering the flashback seems to be reliving the trauma.

During our Relationship Mentoring Programs with both adults and children, we often encounter fearful behaviors caused by life experiences. This article is designed to facilitate the creation of ideas that will bring understanding and healing to those who suffer from flashbacks. I am not an expert but I do know what flashbacks are from personal experience. I hope that you will share your experiences so that we can all help each other remove the fear of flashbacks.

A flashback is an eye sore in your soul.

I believe that there are 5 main truths about flashbacks:

1. A flashback is rooted in fear.
2. We can remove the root of fear.
3. We cannot remove the memory.
4. We can move the memory out of fear.
5. We need to reach out and allow people to help us lift our weights.

A tank full of positive affirmations and self belief can blast away at fear.

 For anything in life to grow, there must be brokenness. The farmer must break the ground to sow his seed. A mother's water will break before her baby enters the world from her womb. A heart breaks many times over a natural lifetime. If a law is broken there will be punishment. Traumatic memories are caused by the breaking of a moral code. Call it an evil transgression against something that was created as good. Even if you don't believe in God, I'm pretty sure that most folks would agree that a baby doesn't jump out of the womb and say: "I'm evil! I'm going to spend my life doing things to people that will cause them to have flashbacks for life!"  I believe that all human beings are born with an innate goodness. We are inherently endowed with a moral code that guides us in our decision making. Somehow fear entered the equation.

Fear is the root of flashbacks and roots can be pulled.

A draw bridge has the ability to lift fear out of the bad memory.

 The original cause of any trauma is fear. Thoughts of fear attract fearful people and fearful actions. Picture yourself walking in a dangerous part of town and you are afraid that you might get robbed. You start thinking to yourself: "I hope I don't get robbed! I hope I don't get robbed! I hope I don't get robbed!" What do you think is going to happen to you? YOU ARE GOING TO GET ROBBED! Your thoughts of fear make you appear vulnerable to the robber and you are viewed as an easy target. Somewhere along the way the moral code of the robber was broken and the trauma in his life now causes him to create trauma in the lives of other people. This cycle of repeated trauma is acted out through wounded people who have not been healed from abuse or addiction. Do you recognize these patterns:

• The bullied becomes the bully.
• The sexually abused becomes the abuser.
• The child of the alcoholic becomes an alcoholic.
• The child of a gang member becomes a gang member.
• The emotionally and verbally abused becomes the abuser.

Will you focus on the barbed wire or the blue sky?

Slavery is a bad memory that should never be forgotten

   

 If you are serious about breaking the flashback fear in your life,

REPEAT THIS OUT LOUD RIGHT NOW:

"I DON'T HAVE TO BE WHAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME!"

"WHAT WAS DONE TO ME DOES NOT DEFINE ME."

"I AM A GOOD AND VALUABLE PERSON
DESIGNED TO GIVE AND RECEIVE LOVE
IN THE MOST EXCELLENT WAY."

By removing fear we can create a Peace Bridge to traumatic memories.